Sex, Chocolate, and Other Things Geeky

This has been working for me.  In February I decided to try something new for my period, Softcups !  It's a disposable cup that you use for 12ish hours, depending on your flow, instead of a tampon or pad.  I gotta tell you that I love them. You've got to be fairly comfortable with your body to use these and they're not going to work for everyone, but they work wonderfully for me!  I don't have to worry about my tampon failing me all of a sudden or deal with pads at night when I'm sleeping.  Just swap out the Softcup every 12 hrs and I'm good to go.  One of these days I might make the switch to the moon cups that are reusable, but for now I'm liking the idea of not having to wash it out or worry that I might forget I was sterilizing it and leave it on the stove too long, killing the cup and the pan it was in.  This happened to a friend of mine once. The company's changed their logo and redesigned the Softcup so it's more comfortable to use, th...

I often find myself wondering if I've crossed the line with some people.  I spend so much of my time pushing my own boundaries when it comes to sex that I sometimes fear that I've gone too far with my friends. Add to this my personal belief that sex can be just another expression of friendship and it just becomes even more confusing.  I like pushing boundaries and making people think about their positions on things and maybe reevaluate them, but I don't want to actually offend people.  I just think that our society could benefit from a more open expression of sexuality and I do my best to live that ideal.  I also have never been very good at not saying what I'm thinking.  I'm better than I was as a child, for sure, but not saying things doesn't make sense to me. I think I'm going to have to come back to this one after thinking things through some more...

I just read an interesting article on Good Vibrations' blog about women actually experiencing their sexuality and making it a part of their daily lives and I agree with it wholeheartedly.  I also have to admit that I fail in doing so a lot more than I really want people to know.  I let society get to me more than I want to admit to myself, let alone everyone else.  I admire all these women who never seemed afraid to be out and proud as very sexual women like Mae West or Bettie Page, but I can't figure out how to be more like them. I've spent a lot of time doing the "fake it till you make it" thing and most days I succeed in being who I want to be, at least as far as my sexuality goes.  For me, sexuality is a very important part daily life, intellectually at least.  The next step comes in connecting the intellectual to everything else. I guess what it comes down to is that I still feel that there a lot of things about my own sexuality that I need to figu...

Once again, Tristan Taormino has knocked it out of the park.  Expert's Guide to Advanced Anal Sex is a great combination of information and titillating action.  As usual for her work, Taormino starts off with a lot of great information, covering the basic information needed to make anal sex fun and safe, including enemas, lube and the different positions that can be used. There are 4 couples featured in this instructional DVD.  They're all amazing together!  The first couple are Kylie Ireland and James Deen and they start off with a great interview.  Kylie has some great advice for women who are new to anal and James talks about the importance of communication and reminds us all that when we have sex we're there, working to have fun. This amazing scene starts with lots of foreplay and warm up, which is great to see and very hot to boot!  They get Kylie lubed up, start off with fingers then graduate to a good sized toy before...well, you'll see.  ;-...

I've recently realized how much of a burden taking birth control pills really are.  I can't sleep in as late as I want, because I have to make sure that I take my pill in the right window then it's not as effective, which means courting pregnancy.  Pregnancy is something I really don't want to court.  I had one pregnancy scare when in high school and that's enough for me, thanks!  More than enough, actually.  I really could have done without that experience, but I also learned a number of things about myself from it, so I guess it wasn't all bad. With the passage of the recent requirements that will make insurance companies have to cover all, or almost all, birth control methods for women with no copay.  The changes should go into effect next year.  I'm contemplating changing to an IUD.  I've got reservations about this, stemming from stories I've heard from various friends.  One friend was born holding her mother's IUD.  Anoth...