Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Review: Expert Guide to Female Orgasm

I thought you all would love this review I’ve just completed for this great new DVD from Vivid-Ed, Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Female Orgasm, which you can find here: : http://vbly.us/2fcj
When it comes to hands-on sex education, Tristan Taormino is one of the first names that spring to mind, and with good reason.  The Expert’s Guide to Female Orgasm is another wonderful example of her talents.  Tristan spends the first part of the movie giving great information about that most elusive creature, the female orgasm.  She talks about female physiology and anatomy, the different types of orgasms, what they might feel like, how women experience their orgasms and the fact that no two experiences are going to be the same.  She also talks about the connection that must be present between mind and body for women to achieve orgasm.  The information packed into the start of the disc is amazing!  She uses great visuals when talking about oral sex techniques and the cut scenes that illustrate the visuals are immensely helpful, and very hot!
One thing about Tristan Taormino’s work that is fast becoming a favorite element for me is letting her female stars pick their partners and in this film that included a genderqueer star who is biologically female, which added another perspective on female orgasm.  It was really interesting hearing someone who is physically female, but who doesn’t identify along the gender binary we have in our society, talk about how orgasm feels to them and the types of orgasm Jiz Lee experiences.  I also love encountering firsts when I’m watching something; a few of those that I encountered when watching this: porn staring someone who is genderqueer and female ejaculation.
There is so much to love in all 5 of the scenes on the disc.  The wonderful advice and descriptions regarding female orgasm from both the women and their partners.  Female porn stars with pubic hair.  Safer sex practices in several of the scenes.  The variety of toys used and the ways they were used are great fodder for my own future explorations.  Possibly the best part of all was that all the couples had amazing chemistry and the way they interacted with one another was absolutely beautiful, even when they were fucking.
One of my favorite quotes in the Guide was from Adriana Nicole: “We don’t get to have sex as much as we should get to.”  This simple sentence clicked with me because it summed up why I want to be a sex educator, to get people to have more sex and to have better sex when they do have it.  When it comes to orgasms, men have us ladies beat (pun intended) because they are encouraged, by society if nothing else, to masturbate and learn what works for their bodies.  We women are encouraged to never touch ourselves and to disdain such unfeminine practices.  This film is a great tool in the arsenal of any woman in trying to reverse those teachings and learn to love themselves more than they ever have.  What the different types of orgasms are, and how to get there are almost the most important lesson to take away from watching this, but the thing that hopefully sinks in for most women watching this is that their greatest sexual pleasure starts by knowing themselves and their bodies.  Knowing what works and what doesn’t, and remembering to take the time to find out, because then they can take that precious knowledge to their partners and share what they have learned.  By doing this simple sounding thing, they will open new doors for their sexual lives and hopefully take that new found confidence with them in their approach to the rest of their lives, and have fun while doing it!