Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Expert's Guide to Pegging review

Pegging (for those unfamiliar with the word) is the term used for a female bodied person penetrating a male bodied person anally using a strap-on dildo.
Tristan Taormino's Expert's Guide to Pegging was her Valentine's gift to the world this year, and I just love how she introduces the topic, and how she talks about the fears people may have about pegging.  The anatomy lesson is great and full of info that is useful for both beginners and more experienced players.  I love how much Tristan loves her topic.  It’s one of the things that makes her videos so much fun to watch.  The first things she goes over are some of the basics like hygiene and lube, with really good information about both these topics starting the ball rolling.

Tristan gives lots of detail on the types and stages of warm-up are great for anal play, taking us from oral stimulation through using more and more fingers, up through different types of toys that will help get the butt ready for pegging.

The next section is all about strap-on harnesses and dildos and there's tons of great info and images on different types of harnesses and dildos.  This section made me grab mine and get them more or less fitted how I want!  I love hearing from Jiz, Dylan and Jada about how they feel while strapping.  So nice to hear a lot of the things I have a hard time articulating spoken by such sexy people!!

After talking about the harnesses,  Tristan gives some great info on the most common positions, with her couples playing them out in short cut scenes.  So much information and inspiration here!

Dylan Ryan and Wolf Hudson: Love the slow make out session to start things off and the phenomenal communication at each step of the way.  They have amazing chemistry and are having a ton of fun with each other.  After tons of amazing looking foreplay, Dylan in her harness, with the lovely purple dong and its little vibe are so hot.  Love watching her talk him into the position she wants him in.  So.  Fucking.  HOT!!!!  Watching Dylan putting the Share from Fun Factory in brings back memories.  The end for the active partner is just as awesome as the end for the receiving partner.

Jada Fire and Christian: Love hearing them talk about pegging and what they think other people think about anal sex, from both ends.  And their advice for first timers is right on: Don’t just shove it in.  I love that Jada and Christian went a different route to start things off: a good fucking to get them both hot and bothered before starting the prep work for her pegging him.  Shows that there are many paths that can be taken to get to the same place, something I think gets forgotten a lot of the time when it comes to sex by a lot of people.  Going from fingers to butt plug and to the strap-on makes so much sense.  It makes sure your partner is good and ready for you!  Jada’s harness almost matches her skin color, and so does the dildo, which is pretty neat.  Makes it look more like the dildo is a part of her.  There is something just completely hot about a big guy like Christian taking it up the ass and loving it!  All this makes me wonder how I can gain more cock confidence of my own when I don’t have a lot of opportunity to use my strap-on…  I must say that I always appreciate any type of porn that doesn’t involve the guy gratuitously coming on the woman’s face.

Jiz Lee and Mickey Mod:  The gender aspect to pegging hasn’t been talked about much so far, but it’s not surprising the hear Jiz bring it up or that Mickey has many of the same ideas about the subject.  It’s really fun to watch Jiz cataloging what Mickey says he enjoys during anal play.  Hearing Mickey say that he hasn’t had an orgasm yet from just receiving anal sex makes for a nice window into the reality of a porn star’s sex life.  There tend to be assumptions that porn stars have done it all and that there’s nothing new left for them in the realms of sex play.  Nice to hear otherwise!  There is something truly mesmerizing about watching Jiz wield their strap-on.  It really seem like the dildo is an extension of Jiz’s body.  Jiz and Mickey have amazing chemistry and really good communication.  Mickey knows what he likes and is great about letting Jiz know what that is.  Anytime I see safer sex play in porn, I want to cheer!  It just doesn’t happen enough and it’s always nice to know that being safer can still be hella hot.

The special features on this disc include more info on selecting a strap-on harness, an enema how-to, and solo prostate play for the guys!  Tristan always seems to pack as much great info and hot sex into her offerings as she can and it makes them an even better deal.

Take it slow.  Talk to your partner.  And don’t forget, just because you start off with strap-on play, doesn’t mean you have to end there, also, just because you start with anything else, doesn’t mean you can’t end with strap-on play.  These are my main take aways from this amazing DVD.  Once again, Tristan Taormino has found amazingly hot people who have phenomenal chemistry and given us all a beautiful ride!

Haunted by Kelley Armstrong

The Women of the Otherworld series covers a lot of ground in just a few books and bringing Eve into the picture shows just how much it covers.  Eve is the self appointed black sheep of the witch race, and she never learned to look before she leaps.  Her impetuousness, cliche though it may be, is her greatest strength and her greatest weakness.  She's a great spellcaster, a half-demon, a former track star and a decent martial artist, but if she didn't make snap decisions without all the facts, she wouldn't be where she is at the start of the book, or at any other point in it, to be truthful.

Haunted takes place mostly in the afterlife and deals as much with the pain of being able to see those left behind as it does with catching the bad guy.  Pretty much everyone who has ever lost someone has wondered if their loved one was there watching them, hoping they were and afraid to hope at the same time.  Now we get to see the other side of the coin.  Possibly the best thing to take away from this book is not to let regret hold you in one place too long.  As much as Eve takes action without thinking things through, she's also stuck in one spot, trying to make up for leaving her daughter behind.  But if you can't talk to someone, can't touch them, and they don't even know you're there, you can't actually help them or save them or even be real for them and that is just completely futile.

 It takes a while for that futility to come home to Eve, and if it didn't eventually, I wouldn't have made it through the whole book.  I'm not going to go into more detail than that, because too much in the way of spoilers is no fun for anyone.

All in all, this is another great entry in the series and I'm still loving being a part of this great challenge.  Next up, Broken!

Saturday, July 14, 2012


I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
 - Frank Herbert, Dune

When I think of fear and overcoming it, this is what I think of.  The Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear.  And that's because it's absolutely true.  Fear will kill you quicker than anything else.  You will still be walking around, but you will be dead inside.  If you let fear take you over then you just haven't lain down yet, but you are dead where it truly counts.

I spend more time than I want to admit living in fear.  I fear disappointing those around me.  I fear taking the wrong step so much that some days I don't take any at all and that is never the right choice.  I even fear succeeding at the things I want to succeed at.

I really want to feel truly free to write whatever comes to my mind on this blog, but I fear the reactions of those closest to me.  I would hate to hurt them because of something I said on here.

I am not the most private person.  My concept of modesty involves figuring out what the people around me are comfortable with and trying not to overstep that line.  This extends itself to pretty much every part of my life.  I will talk about the deep details of any number of things most people believe are improper topics for public discussion, sex and its related subjects being the most obvious of those.  Not talking about something tends to make me feel rather uncomfortable and yet, the fear of offending or freaking out my friends makes me break out in a fine sweat.  How does one balance this when keeping your mouth shut is not the default response for you?

I'm tired of letting fear rule me, and yet I still value the good will of those closest to me that I continue to hesitate letting go and actually saying what I'm truly thinking at any given moment.  There must be a better way.